LUMBERTON – Many of us inherited from relatives or started collections intentionally or unknowingly over the years. We now have shelves, cabinets, and even rooms where these items or some people call garbage.
We tend to cling to these items because they evoke a certain amount of memory or emotion, and that is the key difference between emotional turmoil (pictures, loved ones’ property, childhood items) and basic disturbances (torn clothes, broken toys, random books). . To quote Dr. Julie Holland from New York University School of Medicine, “Emotional Disorder is the same as Teddy Bear.”
It’s hard to let go of emotions! Keeping all those items or not getting rid of basic pollution can lead to overcrowding and health risks. Overcrowding can lead to insect and rodent infestation, travel and fall hazards, and even more serious fires. Some individuals may limit visits from family and friends or live alone because of clutter.
How can we “contaminate” emotional turmoil? First of all, it’s important to understand that not all items are cluttered – just keep them if they really make you happy. Second, there is no harm in discarding, selling or donating items, so you do not feel guilty for discarding items. It is better to remove items from your home than to allow items to occupy your home.
You can take a few steps to help determine what will last and what will go.
– Decide how many rooms you have – It is important to decide first how many rooms you want to keep. For example, you can set aside 10% shelf space for these items. Think of it as going into a good cake shop – every cake can make you happy, but you want to decide exactly which cake you want to try. It’s the same with emotional objects – too many things can reduce the quality of holding them.
– Make room in your home – One or two items will be taken out of your home for everything you put in your home.
– Choose representative items – An easy way to reduce emotional turmoil is to choose good representative items for your collection and keep one or two favorites rather than the whole collection. For example, if you have hundreds of pictures of your deceased family members, select up to 10 to keep and display in your home. This can also apply to collections. If a relative collects chickens, keep one or two of your 50 or 50 loved ones.
– Don’t just sort items – Every item in your home needs a home forever. While your relatives are sorting things out, you may find memorized boxes or boxes hidden in their storage since you were a child. It doesn’t make sense to transfer memory boxes from their home to you. Instead, choose two or three favorites to keep and throw away. You can digitize items such as homemade cards you want to remember but they have no place in your home.
– Go – Decide where each item goes – Donate, Sell, Dispose or Reuse. Be sure to set a time line to get these items to their intended destination.
The key to success is to follow through on your plan to avoid clutter. An action plan is a great way to achieve your plan. For more advice and information on decay, contact Jesse Jones, Extension Family and Consumer Science Representative at 910-671-3276, email [email protected], Or visit our website http://robeson.ces.ncsu.edu/.
Jesse Jones is a representative of the Extension Family and Consumer Science with the North Carolina Cooperative Extension at Robson County Center. She can be reached by calling 910-671-3276 or by email [email protected]